What’s Your Focus
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Are you truly focusing on your achieving your desires and visions or is there something holding you back?
You are passionate about creating your Dream Life.
You have completed your Desire Statement and repeat it daily.
You are conscious of holding positive thoughts.
You have mapped out short-term goals along your journey.
You feel like you’ve aligned your beliefs with your vision of your ideal life.
Yet something’s not quite jelling, there’s a piece missing.
This may be caused by limiting beliefs. Your focus is split between two opposing beliefs. These limiting beliefs are competing with your stated desires. Many times, these limiting beliefs are a product of something that occurred in your childhood. An event in your past has caused you to create certain “truths” about yourself. These “truths” are really a product of your perceptions and are not actual truths. Yet your subconscious mind has built these beliefs into defense mechanisms. They have become a part of who you are and what you think, whether you realize it or not.
You may have become aware of these limiting beliefs by now. Even though you think you have identified the cause and have developed an understanding of how this affects you, you still cannot seem to get over that hurdle.
Whatever we focus on persists
In actuality, your focus on these issues has not supported you in moving forward. By pushing against these beliefs, you are making them stronger. Since their conception in your past, your subconscious mind has used these limiting beliefs as a basis for many everyday reactions. Whenever anything occurs in your life that feels uncomfortable or scary, your subconscious automatically attempts to direct you away from these circumstances instead of allowing you to move through them.
Do you realize that every negative thought or feeling you have ever experienced is held within the cellular structure of your body? This is the cause of many illnesses and discontent for some people. The emotional energies you’ve attached to these past events are also blocking you in achieving what you say you want.
On the outside, you look successful, content and on the move. Yet inside are feelings that are not supporting you. You may have developed coping mechanisms or strategies to mitigate the feelings you would rather not feel. This blocks your pathway. Because of the energies associated with these limiting beliefs, you will not succeed until you let go of these energetic connections.
Letting go
There are many techniques you can learn to support your growth along your journey. I encourage you to utilize them. Sometimes that’s not enough. You may not possess the skills necessary to understand and clear these limiting beliefs on your own. That may be the time to look for a person who has training in this field.
Just recently, I came up against some limiting beliefs that I thought I had addressed before. In reality, I was only coping with them – and not very efficiently. All sorts of conflicting emotions were holding me back from moving forward. I was in need of outside support. Someone who was skilled in clearing these emotional barriers.
A good friend of mine, Sandhan, has recently completed a course in EmMatrix. This course taught how to facilitate an emotional clearing.
Emotional clearing is the process by which you peel off the layers of your emotional blocks, transforming dense energies of anger, shame and guilt etc. becoming conscious of them and in the case of EmMatrix, appreciating the positive messages they have to share.
After completing a session with Sandhan, I noticed a huge shift in my perceptions. I have released the old limiting beliefs which were not serving me. In their place are empowering beliefs that will support me in creating my Dream Life.
All I can say is WOW! If I had not experienced this first-hand, I would not have believed such results were possible. Through her supporting guidance, I discovered my true self. I now feel balanced and ready to create the momentum necessary to achieve my dreams.
If you are not achieving the results you want in life, you owe it to yourself to hop on over and check out Sandhan’s site. Trust me, you won’t be disappointed. An open mind and a desire to improve yourself combined with this technique may be just what you are looking for.
As always, I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Please share your comments in the box below. If this resonates with you, feel free to share this with your Twitter and Facebook friends by using the buttons located at the beginning of this post.
Have an awesome day!
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Twitter: timcolletti
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Hi Val,
This is some very insightful information. The technique that you described as “Emotional Clearing” sound like a very good way of dealing with all of our inner problems.
~ Tim
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 4:22 pm
Tim,
Thanks so much for sopping by.
It’s amazing what may come up when you allow the feelings to flow. Very empowering and self-healing technique.
Val
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Twitter: janettestoll
says:
Hi Val,
I love this post! How coincidental as I’m reading the companion book which goes with The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. Have you read his book? I absolutely love the core teachings of The Four Agreements and aim to be conscious of these agreements daily. It’s practical wisdom that can be applied in your life and business.
Janette
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Thanks Janette,
I have not read these books yet. I have a feeling that these would serve me well. I have added it to my list of books.
Thank you for sharing that wisdom with me,
Val
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Twitter: sandhan
says:
How honoured I am that you found your EmMatrix session with me so helpful..
I certainly enjoy facilitating them because I see the results instantly with everyone and also know what amazing consequences clearing limiting beliefs and emotions will have not only for the individual but also for the world at large as people are liberated from their fears.
It’s a privilege to be part of this amazing work…
http://bit.ly/atP2Yp
Sandhan´s last blog ..My Desire Statement Tell The Universe What you Want!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 10:39 pm
Sandhan,
This session has freed huge amounts of pent up hurts. I so appreciate you for sharing with me.
Connecting with you has enriched my life ten fold.
Thank you,
Val
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Hi Val,
I enjoyed your article. Thank you.
Yes opposing beliefs can take up a lot of energy.
I agree with your saying ‘what we resist persists’.
Letting go is probably not the easiest thing when we are so used to wanting to be in control.
Love and Light
from
Yorinda
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 25th, 2010 at 4:55 pm
Yorinda,
We spend alot of energy on these opposing beliefs, amny times without any real knowledge that we’re doing it!
Control is so relative. Releasing limiting beliefs can move you forward expotentially.
Have an great one!
Val
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Val,
There are no accidents. Every post I have read this evening what just what I needed to read and know. I had already had my interest peaked from other testimonials of Sandhan. I am excited to explore this work as well.
I have done a lot of work on myself but I am a big believer that there is a reason I am reading this now and I do feel there is more word to do.
Thank you Val for telling your story and as a result encouraging all of us.
Faith
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 26th, 2010 at 1:34 pm
Faith,
So glad you found value in the information about the EnMatrix technique. It was truly amazing to go through this process. As you say, one can never discount any process which assists us in moving forward.
Have an awesome day,
Val
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HEY VAL! I like the part of Letting Go. That is so important to clear the energies. When we let go, we make room for the things we are trying to create in our lives.
When people hold on, it blocks them from creating that positive flow.
So glad you enjoyed your session. Sandhan is quite the gal these days!
Donna
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 26th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
Hey Donna,
It was a great session! Releasing those blocks was quite simple when my perception of them shifted.
It’s great to have such great friends to support you in the journey!
Val
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Val, Very inspiring post! The Subconscious mind is very powerful, and it truly can interfere with our focus and limit our beliefs. I will have to check out Sandhan’s site. Thanks for the great post!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 26th, 2010 at 1:38 pm
Joseph,
We supply our subconscious with thoughts and then wonder why it holds onto those perceptions. So simple an exercise, yet we don’t always recognize when to let go.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts,
Val
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Twitter: kelliehosaka
says:
Aloha Val,
Excellent article as usual!
I also believe in constant personal growth and I have taken many courses, been to seminars, have had many personal coaches, etc and growth, like expansion never ends. If we want to get better, each day, each week, each month, and definitely each year, it’s good to get another “growth spurt”!
I too have just had the privilege of Sandhan’s EnMatrix technique and she is definitely very skilled and gifted to assist with hidden emotional blocks. I highly recommend her session for anyone who may be struggling to move forward.
Thank you Val! Aloha
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 27th, 2010 at 5:22 am
Kellie,
I like your words “growth spurt!” Great way to approach the journey. With a learner’s mindset.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
I appreciate you,
Val
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Hi Val,
Over the weekend, I experienced some of the emotional cleansing and letting go you write about in this post.
After nearly four years of living in this house, I decided it was time to rearrange my bedroom. Move every piece of furniture to a different place and give the room a whole new feel. With a very heavy armoire to move along with a queen sized bed, this was no small undertaking for me by myself! However, I leveraged some tricks I learned years ago about how to move large pieces of furniture without breaking my back or ripping my arms out of their sockets. (You put pieces of thick cardboard under the furniture and slide it easily to its new spot.)
Anyway, after two days of moving, cleaning, dusting, and throwing out junk I found stuffed under the bed and in various piles around the room, my whole being felt lighter and more free. The act of rearranging the furniture helped me let go of some old emotions I was holding on to from when I first moved in to the house.
I now recommend rearranging furniture to anyone looking to loosen up and let go of old emotional junk hanging around! It works!
Mary Lou
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 27th, 2010 at 10:17 pm
Mary Lou,
Simple, easy clearing of your living space can release all that hold-over energy you want to cleanse. I like that idea. I haven’t done that in a couple of years. Time to re-evaluate what I’m “holding” onto & why!
Thanks so much for sharing this idea,
Val
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Thanks for sharing this Val. Emotional clearing is great stuff! Move out the old garbage! I love using dream incubation this has been the best way for me to resolve issues and get inspiration. I also went to Sandhan blog and read through the information. Very interesting. Sounds like a good program.
Nicole Rushin´s last blog ..Stretching and Leaping to Reach Your Goals
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 27th, 2010 at 10:19 pm
Nicole,
I would love to hear more about dream incubation. You alluded to it in the last post. You now have me intrigued about the process.
Val
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Val, In my counseling sessions I use two types of somatic body psychotherapy which help clients to become aware of tensions in their body, to gradually allow the various body parts to let go (neck, shoulder, arms, legs), to allow their self to relax and let go of all that mind clutter. The two methods are The Rubenfeld Synergy Method of talk and touch and the Craniosacral method of somatoemotional release. I have experienced, over and over, how powerful it is to acknowledge your true feelings, to express them and to let them go. Then the brain finds a new pathway, a new way of viewing the same life situations.
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 27th, 2010 at 10:24 pm
Erica,
You are so right about the letting go. It was very different to release something that I had held the space for all those years. At first I felt a bit empty, until Sandhan completed the process by suggesting filling that space with empowering, positive feelings.
I read your post on one of the techniques. Sounds like it can empower you when you release these non-serving energies. Intrigueing,
Val
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Hey Val,
Thank you for sharing your experience Val, and for your much needed work Sandhan
Blessings,
Karla
http://www.KarlaSetchel.com
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 28th, 2010 at 1:46 pm
Karla,
I appreciate your thoughts today.
Have an awesome day!
Val
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Twitter: passion101
says:
Val,
Great juxtaposition of focus and letting go. It is true also, that as we let go, we must replace what we’ve let go of with something else, as nature abhors a vacuum. Keep up the good work!
Adam
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 28th, 2010 at 1:50 pm
Adam,
It’s good to know that this was completed properly. It was the first thing I noticed after the clearing. I told Sandhan, Hey, it feels like an empty space there! I just got ahead of her next step because she was getting ready to walk me through filling the space with empowering emotions instead.
I think people in the practices of assisting others tend to get ahead of ourselves when we are being helped.
Habit!!!
Thanks for sharing that insight,
Val
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Dear Val,
Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
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Letting go is the most essential of all to being our true selves.
I am happy you experienced the shift.
Enjoy your true self!
Namaste,
Venus
Venus
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 28th, 2010 at 4:45 pm
Venus,
Yes, the past does not serve you in moving forward if you allow experiences to hold you back.
I have become more open to listening to my inner voice of power. Such insights of growth. Love it!
Namaste,
Val
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Hey Val! I have never tried this but it seems like something that is very worthwhile. I think emotional baggage can hold you back so I think emotional clearing would be great. Thanks for sharing this.
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 28th, 2010 at 6:11 pm
Angela,
This is the first time I had experienced a process like this. It was so worthwhile! There are so many techniques and steps you can utilize to clear the way to your dream life.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts,
Val
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Twitter: christine_tulsa
says:
Hi Val,
You are so right about whatever we focus on persists ~ I don’t think we really think about this fact & when I finally figured it out, it’s amazing how much further along I can get with my focus, actions & the general direction my life is taking. I really appreciate you sharing!
Christine
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 29th, 2010 at 4:52 pm
Christine,
You’ve got the right focus on life. I’ve watched you take positive actions to empower your life. Keep on rocking it!
Val
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Val, you are so right with this, & congratulations for doing something about those limiting beliefs. I’ve been on this path now for about a year and I too thought I’d dealt with ‘that stuff’ years ago, but its like onion layers sometimes I think, you just have to keep peeling it away as your journey unfolds.
Sandhan’s work is really gaining momentum, I keep reading about her work, its fabulous to be able to support good people doing great work. I am a great supporter of anyone who has the courage to walk the road less travelled & deal with this stuff.
Cheers
Anna
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 29th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
Anna,
I like your analogy of peeling back the layers of an onion. We do have layers of programs and limiting beliefs. As soon as we work with one, others will become apparent. This is why we should continuously be aware of what appears for us.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts,
Val
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Hey Val: Thanks for sharing your experience. Wellness including our mind and spirit/soul and we must learn to open ourselves to heal. Appreciate your post, my friend.
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 29th, 2010 at 8:59 pm
Arlan,
Yes, you are so right about being in wellness with your whole body, spirit and soul.
I appreciate you and the great work you share on your blog!
Val
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Twitter: TraceyKeefer
says:
Val, what a great post! Timing is everything in life and this is just what I needed to hear today! Just hope I can remain open enough to absorb it all! So hard to teach an old dog new tricks that are so embedded. I have been looking for a stick of dynamite to get the job done, but perhaps there is an easier more gentle way.
Thanks so much for being you and sharing such great info always!
“Dream, Believe, Become…”
Tracey
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 30th, 2010 at 4:44 pm
Tracey,
Glad this resonated with you. Anyone can make the shift in their ways. No stick of dynamite needed, just learn to find the gift that these old beliefs have given you and release their hold on you.
This may be easier with some outside help. That’s why have this session with Sandhan helped so much!
Val
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Hi Val
I am so glad Sandhan was able to help you with your limited beliefs! You are always very positive and hwppy – but I did notice an extra pep in your step (or in this case Skype). I may have to get with Sandhan myself. Thanks for pointing this out. I think we all struggle with limited beliefs at some point.
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
July 30th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
Glyna,
It was an awesome session! Yes, you did notice the difference.
Give yourself the gift of letting go of old limiting beliefs. I would definitely recommend contacting Sandhan!
Val
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Hey Val,
I’m focused on getting rich in 2010…LOL!!! Great post as usual. I hope all is well with you:)
J
Make Money Fast
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 1:30 pm
Jeremiah,
So glad you swung by today! I am wonderful. I see you have been busy building your presence.
Have an awesome day,
Val
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Twitter: davidahaines
says:
Hi Val, why are you writing about me again? ha ha Just kidding. Great article. I can relate on so many levels. My conflicting beliefs are the key thing holding me back from breaking out big. Thank you for such a well thought out article. It definitely helped.
Sincerely,
David Haines
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
August 12th, 2010 at 11:25 am
David,
Your perceptions are making this your story! LOL
I appreciate that you’re sharing your thoughts with us,
Val
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Val, Great stuff! When we identify the limiting beliefs – we now have the freedom to choose if we will be stopped/ denied/ by our doubts.. or simply allow ourselves to do bold actions to have us really getting what we are after.
Best, Lisa
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
August 14th, 2010 at 5:59 am
Lisa,
You have a great point about allowing ourselves to succeed. So many times, we hold ourselves back.
Here’s to bold actions!
Val
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