The Power of YOU!
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What can you do with this power? Everything! The power is within each and every one of us to bring about change in the world. You can
quiet the negative thoughts in your mind, you can embrace the positive. All it takes is a different point of view. Look for the good in every
situation, see beneath the surface.
Do you realize that 99% of your decisions are made by your programs? Ok, so what does this mean? When you were little, you thought everything and anything was possible. As you grew, people you knew started putting limits/controls on these thoughts. Don’t do this, don’t think that, this is the way you should be… Get the picture!
By the time you reach your teens, you have developed a set of beliefs based on all the experiences that have occurred in your life, both good and bad. These are your programs that you let decide how you’re going to react to life’s experiences.
You may have developed a belief that you don’t fit in or aren’t good enough because of a time when something was said or overheard. You gave this event a meaning, a meaning that you now use to describe who you are. It’s easy to get stuck in past experiences. It’s easy to dwell on the pain and hurt you felt at that time. Your world becomes colored with shades of grey. 
The way you react now could be in direct correlation to your past experiences. Are you really living a productive life following these old beliefs? The good news is you can change this. It all boils down to choice.
Hmmm, how many times have you heard that? Still, it’s worth repeating over and over again. In every aspect of your life you DO have the choice, the choice of how you perceive any event that happens. What price are you paying for continuing to believe and live with this non-productive program? Where is it showing up in your life?
The key is to remember that it was an event, nothing more, nothing less. YOU attach a meaning to the event based on your perceptions, your beliefs. This does not negate the fact that bad things do happen. Not at all. There is no way to control outside events. What you DO have control over is your reaction. Stop taking the blame for what you could not control.
A little exercise to assist you in changing this non-productive belief :
- Write down what happened and how it made you feel. Just let the words flow.
- Now, take a deep breath in…deep breath out… Ahhhhh, good.
- Take those negative thoughts and write them down in an empowering manner on another piece of paper.
- Change the words to I am worthy of…, I am a great person because.., I am ok with…
- Take the paper with the negative thoughts and burn it or rip it up in pieces and throw it away! Wipe those thoughts out of your head and heart.
- Re-read the empowering statements again and again until you can feel the truth of them in your heart.
Get the idea of where I’m going with this?
These positive words empower you to feel great about yourself again. Doesn’t it make you feel better just writing that down?! Yes, it may feel silly or weird and your inner voice is saying you’re wrong, go back to the old way of thinking, but please, please, please don’t let that old voice win out!
It’s a matter of understanding the lesson in each situation. It’s using that lesson to move yourself forward instead of digging a hole and hiding away. Building a shell to protect yourself also confines and restricts you. The capacity for growth is stopped.
Explore these emotionally charged events, find ways to be at peace with them. Understand that these were circumstances you had no control over. Embrace the good that is within you. It’s there, let it all shine through. Do you know why? Because you have the wonderful gift that is YOU to share with the world!
I look forward to meeting you, to learn and share with you, to call you friend. Can you feel the excitement? I can! 
Thanks for stopping by. I appreciate you and would love to hear from you.
Love the writing prompts you share here! Writing is such a powerful tool and in today’s plugged in world, fewer and fewer people are using pen/pencil and paper but instead, going straight to the keyboard. Call me old-fashioned, but typing and writing by hand are NOT the same thing, nor are the results the same, IMHO. (I am sure someone would argue with me about that.)
There is just something about releasing our thoughts and emotions through words that has a powerful effect on our attitudes. Terrific post, Val!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 11:17 am
Thanks Mary Lou
I agree that writing it down on paper “sets” it in your mind. Get’s it out of your head in releases the energy associated with it.
Have a great day Mary Lou,
Val :0
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Great Post, Val! I’m working through some beliefs right now. Not necessarily painful ones, but the ones that I’ve been thinking are “just me” but they aren’t serving me at all. Being “just me” is whatever I choose it to be. Such an empowering position to take!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 1:23 pm
Angelina,
You go girl! You are always an inspiration to me. You are an awesome woman. I’m so glad to have the chance to get to know you.
Love and hugs,
Val
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Twitter: sunshinebaba
says:
Really Inspiring.
Hugs
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 6:47 pm
Thanks so much for following my blog Sunshine & Baba!
Val
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Writing negative things down and burning or throwing them away really does work! It is too bad that we are programmed by all the negative ideas of the world, but it is good to know we can change it if we choose. Great Post
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
Glyna,
The first time I wrote things down, I did feel weird, but the amazing thing was how liberated I felt after doing it! It really is about writing your own story your way. It’s not changing the story, it’s changing your perception of the event.
I love it!,
Val
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Val,
Love the post, this is some powerful words of wisdom. You have done a great job.
Thank You
Bill
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 9:36 pm
Thank you Bill. I respect your opinion.
Have a great one!
Val
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Twitter: TraceyKeefer
says:
Val, great post! You are so right that the baggage we carry holds us back from all we want coming to fruition! I love the suggestions you give on finding out where the programing came from and letting it go! There is much to be said about how the brain works when it transfers its thoughts to the pen and then actually writes them on paper.
Thanks for sharing such great info with everyone!
“Dream, Believe, Become…”
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 4:57 am
Tracey,
It’s so great to connect with you. Anyway a person can use to release pent up bad feelings without affecting others is great. Empowers a person to move forward.
Thanks,
Val
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Yes. How we live our lives and what happens in our lives are our choices to make. This is tough to consider at many times because it is much easier to put the blame elsewhere. Changing perceptions & beleifs that we already have is difficult, and the writing exercise you gave is a good one. Physically writing things down helps with the emotional thought process. Thanks Val. Keep up the good posts!
Life IS a journey full of choices and possibilities that are yours to make – -
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 9:31 am
Vicki,
Thanks so much for stopping by! I respect and appreciate your comments.
This exercise has supported me many times in clearing up my thought process. It’s easy to get stuck in the murky waters.
Have a great day Vic!
Val
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Don Enck just did a post similar to this. The emotional issues that we have tied to things in the past and our clutter.
I could definitely build a bon-fire and get rid of a bunch of old clutter.
Great idea, Val
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 10th, 2010 at 12:41 pm
I saw that, we were on the same wave length!
Just think how big of a bonfire we could have if everyone got rid of their “stuff!?”
Thanks Nick,
Val
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Nice post Val.
It reminds of one very simple thing…”thoughts become things, choose good ones.”
I look forward to what comes next.
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 1:06 pm
It’s as simple as that…and as hard as that!
Have a great one Don,
Val
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I love the exercise you provide on reprogramming our negatives into positives and then letting go! So powerful!
Thanks for the inspiration, Val!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Thanks so much Beth,
I learned of this exercise through a seminar I took with K & A. a lot of great mechanisms for releasing the extra baggage!
Val
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Great post Val! You are speaking truth and for as long as we do that then lives will be dramatically altered. Truth is healing and revealing all at the same time quite often. You are a leader and I am so glad to have met you through the tribe. Keep writing and clarifying!
Kellie
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 3:35 pm
Kellie,
Thank you so much for your support. I enjoy your blogs so much and it means a lot to hear your encouraging words.
I feel so blessed to be a part of this awesome Tribe!
Val
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Great advice Val. Where were you sixty years ago? You might have prevented my making so many of those left turns. Oh well like I’ve learned sometimes you just gotta “Turn the Page”
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 7:47 pm
Nelson, I love it!
You know that whatever you have experienced has brought you to the place you are right now. I’m very glad you are here now and a huge part of the Tribe!
Val
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Val… Your words ring out like peals from the “Bell of Truth”. Each of us has immense power to affect change in the world… all we have to do is claim it!
Inspiring post, Val… thank you.
Best wishes,
Chris
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 7:49 pm
Wow, thanks Chris. I really appreciate your support.
I am so glad to connect with you through our awesome Tribe!
Val
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You hit the nail right on the head Val. This is a great post to teach people the How To’s. It is turning the negative into a positive. Everyone can do it, but they just have to realize they can. If they tried the exercise in this blog, they would tap into their power center,and the more you do the more you realize how Power-Full you are.
Regards,
Donna
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 7:50 pm
Dona,
You speak such words of wisdom & truth. I appreciate your support in my endeavor.
Thanks so much,
Val
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Hey Val: Yes. People need this power in the NEW ECONOMY. They must follow their passion and be a leader not sheep. Seth Godin in Tribes reinforces what you are talking about. Great post.
Aloha,
Arlan
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 7:52 pm
Absolutely right on the mark Arlan. We have the power to enact changes for the better if we so choose. Tribes is an awesome book!
Thanks so much,
Val
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Twitter: jeannash
says:
great information Val,
and writing it down makes it so very real.
thanks for some great inspiration
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 9:28 pm
Thanks for your support Jean.
Glad to have you as a fellow Tribe friend!
Val
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Twitter: Krista_Abbott
says:
Val,
This is one reason I really enjoy technology. You can just pound out those negative thoughts and feelings in a Word document…highlight them and click DELETE and they are GONE!!! Using this technique as a visual of erasing those thoughts from our minds can be an awesome practice, I use it when needed. Also, maintaining the proper perspective is crucial to keeping our mindset open to the good things trying to find their way into our life. Keep bringing the great value that you are bringing here.
Appreciate all you do,
Krista
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 9th, 2010 at 10:07 pm
Thanks Krista,
I’ve used paper & pen and at other times a word doc. You can rephrase and adjust your thoughts easier on the computer. Then when I get all the “stuff” out, like you said, DELETE!!!
Whichever works at the time is great to unclog the old brain cells.
Val
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Hi Val, great post! Trading the negatives for positives and looking for the best in every situation is something we can ALL choose to do no matter what limiting beliefs we have developed from previous experiences. Great exercise to assist in the letting go process. Thanks for sharing this information!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 10th, 2010 at 12:39 pm
Thanks Kara,
It’s a reminder to me also! Every day
Val
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Hey Val, what an enlightening post! We sometimes forget how powerful we are and how bringing awareness to our negative thinking can help transform it to positive. Great reminder!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 10th, 2010 at 4:44 pm
Thanks so much Jennifer,
Our old programs get in the way of this so many times.
Val
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Twitter: kenpickard
says:
Val,
Great post about YOU. I love how your sharing with people on how to break free from their bondage. Most people don’t understand that what is happening to them is mostly made up of their own decisions.
Our decisions on what others think, and wheat others say, has a huge impact on our own beliefs and actions if we’re not living in our own power.
Don’t let people rob you of your power. Take charge and break the bondage!
Ken Pickard
The Network Dad
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 10th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
Hey Ken,
Thanks for sharing.
Alot of old programs to break free of. Most of them we don’t even know we have. I’m working on my programs all the time!
Val
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I feel like a kindred spirit here!
Have done a LOT of writing things down but
never turning them around into empowering
statements. Sounds like it would also be an
empowering exercise…
I appreciate the great advice very much
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 11th, 2010 at 2:54 pm
Hey Robin,
Everyone has old programs that don’t serve them. Many just don’t see them for what they are. We’re moving ourselves forward by recognizing these issues and addressing them.
Let me know how re-writing them works for you!
Val
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Twitter: sharonhartman
says:
I spent quite some time learning how to undo what was done. Its all in the mindset.
We are all products of what we ‘think’, and we do have a ‘choice’ to think negatively or positively. The sad part is that most people don’t realise this.
People need to mind their minds. They must learn to press the ‘delete’ key in their brains and reprogram their thoughts…then watch how their world starts to change.
Love the post!! Keep sharing the good word!
Regards,
Sharon
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 11th, 2010 at 2:48 pm
We are not always aware of the power we have to use the delete button in our lives.
I also am learning to undo/re-program many old beliefs. They don’t serve me anymore. It’s so liberating, isn’t it?!
Thanks Sharon,
Val
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Powerful post! As a writer I can attest to the power of words. Writing things down makes them so much more real as opposed to just thinking them. Writing is a way of taking action. Amazing things begin to happen once we decide to step into our greatness and take action. Thank you for sharing this Val.
Kitara
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 16th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
Kitara, I’m so glad you stopped by. We have some powerful connections that resonate well.
I’ve learned how much energy I can release with writing things down & out of my head.
Have an awesome day,
Val
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I was taught to envision all of the bad stuff, the old garbage, as if it was broken glass in my hand. The longer I held onto it, the tighter I squeezed, the more harm I did to myself. It hurt me alone, no other. I had to learn to open my hand, to drop the broken glass and to heal.
Now this is a visualization process in lieu of the physical writing but it did work.
Great post!
Renee
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
March 22nd, 2010 at 7:47 am
Renee,
I like your exercise in letting go. It may be visual, put very powerful. I will remember that to compliment this writing exercise.
Thanks for sharing,
Val
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Thanks for the exercise Val! The Power of You is so important!
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Val valwilcox.com Reply:
April 6th, 2010 at 9:16 pm
Glad you stopped by Michelle,
Val
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Hi Val:
Yes the power is within you, You just need to bring it out. Keep you thoughts flowing.
Your friend
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